Leave your sexual guilt at the door

In your sexual relationship with your lover, do you ever feel guilty? Do you hold back from doing or suggesting something new because someone else may feel there is something wrong with it? You have to stop worrying about what your lover thinks, or others, and leave the blame at the door.

Guilt is a huge obstacle for many people sexually. You have been raised to keep sex private and never mention it in casual conversation. In fact, for most people, it’s hard to even talk about sex in the privacy of the bedroom or even during sex itself.

To be truly open and honest with your lover, you must express your feelings about everything in your relationship and especially about sex. Encourage each other to talk openly about her sexual experiences and fantasies. Fantasy can play a powerful role in your sexual exploration and satisfaction, and it doesn’t always have to be something you keep to yourself.

By opening up to your lover about your desires, you may find that they have the same or others that may enhance yours. You will never know unless you talk about it. If they don’t like your ideas because they feel like they’re a little kinky or smutty, ask them what they like and what they fantasize about. Just talking about fantasies can trigger a strong sexual drive in many people.

And the guilt is not limited to sexual activities or fantasies with your lover. It can also be an obstacle in masturbation. The stigma around masturbation for both men and women has been around forever. However, if you really want to become more sexual, you have to look past the stigma and learn to satisfy yourself so you know what really matters to you sexually. And as you get older, your needs and desires change, so you need to be in tune with your own mind and physiology to be able to keep track.

Many people feel that they are losing desire with age. The problem is not always a lack of libido, it is simply a lack of understanding of the sexual self. Dramatic changes in your sexual needs can occur and if you assume that the same old things will work, then you will be frustrated by your lack of response. The guilt comes back. You assume that there is something wrong with you and that you can feel guilty for not having the hot sexual relationship that you once did.

This is again a time to open up to your partner and let them know that previous activities are no longer having the same effect on you. Let them know that you want to expand your sexual horizon and try new ideas. This new exploration can also be a relief for your lover. They may have felt the same way and just didn’t know how to deal with the changes.

Leave your sex guild at the door and open up to your lover. They might surprise you with something they’ve been wanting to try for a long time. Unless you take this opportunity to improve your sex life, you may never find what you’re looking for.